I’m hoping it’s a 4-year-old phase. It started with the Peppa Pig pajamas, a gift for her birthday in April. Soon after came other, daytime articles of clothing, such as a sleeveless tunic top and a string of mardi gras beads. Then came the music preference, then came the insistence on certain foods.
Is this a One and Only phase?
Her Oma bought her the pajamas. Maya has been a fan of Peppa Pig since she was about 2 years old. She wanted to put them on right away and sleep in them of course, which prompted a big stand-off about not wearing clothes, especially pajamas, without washing them first. But the same pajamas every night? Meh. You can always launder them during the day while you’re wearing your regular clothes, and no one knows the difference anyway (except mom and dad, and now mom’s blog followers). We did give her a lot of resistance about the tunic shirt, until Oma bought her another one in pink, and then she alternated and occasionally threw in another odd shirt altogether. But now it’s a slightly too-small sun dress with pink flamingos, a hand-me-down from her cousin, that is the garment of choice since almost a month ago when it arrived in the mail.
There were so many other things to argue about, like brushing hair and finishing breakfast and how many small toys she can bring to school, that the dress seemed pretty minor. It doesn’t help that everywhere she goes, she gets compliments on the dress (a babysitter actually told her that she hopes the next time she sees Maya, she’s wearing the flamingo dress !!!!). But then the pants or leggings began to always be the same, and today she actually started to argue that she needed to wear the same pair of underpants. The underpants? that’s where I draw the line.
On the more trivial side of things, John Denver is her musical artist of choice, and we’ve all grown more knowledgeable about his songbook and biography over the past few months. Maya’s pre-school class learned “Country Roads” and presented it at the “graduation ceremony” last week. The video above is the whole thing, so be warned: it’s almost 3 minutes long.
As for food: well, she doesn’t get away with having a One and Only. I suspect it would be a ham and cheddar sandwich if she could, but she tends to eat less and less of the bread and just focuses on the insides (dry, no condiments, of course!). So I think that favorite may be on its way out.
She mentioned the other day that the flamingo dress is her Princess outfit. I pointed out that real princesses have many different outfits, each of which is worn for a different occasion. This is completely wrong, according to Princess Maya, so I think misinformed Mom will have to wait, either until PM changes her mind, or is allured by some other new dress that comes into her repertoire.
Once again, I have to say that I’m glad I read Peggy Orenstein’s book Cinderella Ate my Daughter while I was pregnant. Because of it, I know that Maya is right on schedule for her identity formulation stage and that the Princess outfit and other insistences will fade away eventually. Right now, I’m just glad she doesn’t have (or know about?) the mass-produced Disney Princess dresses.